There is a very good diary currently up that discusses some truly
disgusting comments by John Kasich.
www.dailykos.com/…
When reading the comments, I expected a lot of outrage about what the Governor said which essentially is victim blaming and sexist. Instead, I found myself wondering if I had gotten lost and accidentally opened up RedState.
Lets be very clear about this: The only person who can prevent rape is a rapist.
Plain and simple.
Guess who is safe from rape? NO ONE.
Old men, old women, LGBT, sex worker, college students, middle aged people, teenagers, straight men, teenagers, children and even your local martial arts/self defense expert all have and are victims of rape.
Where can you get raped? Almost everywhere.
There is no magical safe zone that can prevent you from being assaulted. Church: nope, jail: nope, your home: nope, a party: nope, public: nope.
When is rape acceptable? Fucking Never.
There seems to be this idea that once alcohol is introduced into a situation, either by one or more parties, all rules of consent go out the window. Let me clear that up for you: They don’t. Alcohol is never an excuse for violating someone else’s consent. EVER.
Let me give this analogy:
Your daughter (because always the daughters) goes to a party and gets really drunk with another boy. He decides to drive home and offers her ride. She being drunk thinks okay...So she gets in the car. She realizes halfway home that the boy is really drunk and probably should not be driving. She asks to get out. He says no. She gets quiet because she is scared. He hits a tree and kills them both. Is he less of a drunk driver because she was drunk? Does her death means less because she is drunk? Should he get a lesser penalty because she was drunk? Did her skirt being short cause him to drive? Does her history of getting in the car with other drivers make her death less tragic?
There is an issue with drinking on college campuses that should be addressed. But that is a separate issue. Booze don’t make people rape each other. If you rape someone while drunk...You were ALREADY a rapist and the are using the boozes as an excuse.
Prevention starts with women: This one drives me crazy!!!!!!!!
Actually prevention starts with your children. It starts with a comprehensive lesson on sex, sexuality, boundaries and consent. It starts with girls and boys. As much as we give all these safety lessons to girls: Don’t drink to much, don’t wear a short skirt, use the buddy system, don’t leave your drink unattended and on and on and on. Let me give you another one: Bros don’t let other bros hurt or take advantage of women.
And finally, if you are one of those people that think if you just tell your daughter the magical rules to keep herself “safe”...fine...but if someone else doesn’t bother following those rules….They don’t deserve their rape. They have not contributed to being a victim and they certainly don’t need your “advice” or judgement.